Five Causes of Generosity Coaching Session 5: Asking

This is the fifth and final coaching session on Five Causes of Generosity.  If you missed sessions 1 – 4, you can read them on my blog at  As with any coaching session, there are some basic guiding principles.

1)  The coach will ask probing questions.
2)  The one being coached will reflect on the questions/instructions given by the coach.
3)  The one being coached, with the help of the coach, will create action items to achieve personal growth.

Coaching works only if the above occur.  Are you ready?  Let’s go.  Our overarching objective during this coaching series is to help you foster new energy and progress in your stewardship ministry.  The desired outcome is not only for people to give more to your church community, but to equip them to develop in their personal stewardship.  Giving and stewardship are two different discussions.  To focus on developing stewards is to focus on helping people grow in the practices of generosity, as well as gratitude, prayer, simplicity, contentment, and living a less consumptive lifestyle.

The fifth cause of generosity is Asking.

I intentionally waited until this final session to talk about asking.  Asking is important to development for funds, just as equally are the other causes I discussed.  “The ask” is part of a greater ministry plan.  This is why you—if you have not already—need to go back and experience coaching sessions 1 – 4.

Asking is ministry.  To “ask” someone to share their money, or more of it, with the church community is to give that person the opportunity to deepen their personal commitment and/or involvement with the work God is doing in the world.  To “ask” is to invite them to pray about their relationship with money and to discern how much of it they should give and how much they truly require for their daily needs.  To “ask” for money is more than fundraising, it is a spiritual exercise, an activity that has the potential to influence one’s financial discipleship.

How many times per year do you or other church leaders ask church community members to give?

How do you ask members to give?  Is it only through letters or emails?  Did you know that personal visits are the most impactful way to ask for giving?  When was the last time you or another church leader made an “ask” in person?

What is your personal comfort level with asking?  Are you afraid of it?  Why?

Do you agree with me when I say that asking is ministry?  Why or why not?

How would you “ask” for giving if fear were not a factor?

Sometimes, people don’t give because the “ask” was not meaningful to them.  Yet, sometimes people do not give because they were not “asked” at all.  If you create a 12-month stewardship ministry plan, asking should be part of this plan.  And you need to ask for giving more than once a year and through more than one medium.

How can you increase your personal involvement with the ministry of “asking”?  What is one way you can be more involved in this ministry in the next 30 days?

Does your church have a stewardship/generosity committee?  If not, it is time to establish this.  Who are three people you should “ask” to be on this committee?  This “ask” is important too.

I am grateful to have been your coach during these sessions.  I hope you will embrace the ministry of asking and be more intentional with your stewardship ministry in 2015.  If you have found this session and the first four sessions to be helpful, I would ask you to consider the following:

  • Please share this blog with others you think will benefit from the coaching.
  • Contact me if you are interested in creating your 12-month ministry plan. I help other churches with these plans every day and would welcome a partnership with yours as well.

Grace and peace.


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